People often do not know how how to react with us in our grief. They resort to socially acceptable cliches, send us flowers and try to ‘do stuff’ to show their support. These are all acts of love, coming from a genuine desire to make us feel better and to lighten the load. When we are deep in grief though, sometimes we just need to be seen and held as we weep and as we are present to these powerful and often very physical feelings. Witnessing and being with someone in their suffering without trying to change it, is probably one of the most altruistic acts of love out there. Who needs you to be present for them at the moment?
Condolences, with sympathy
and in deepest regret
Words cannot begin to be
the help we need to get
It hurts like hell, there’s shock as well
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